The feeling of uncertainty, the apprehensiveness that often controls our decisions, or the constant hesitation that rings through your emotions like a loud clanging bell. It’s called self-doubt … and unfortunately, there will be times we all get to experience this mental state; that is carefully crafted to keep us emotionally imprisoned.
The origin of this thought process varies. For some of us, it introduced itself during our childhood. For many, it stems from some type of trauma this was left unhealed. If this is something you struggle with, only you can determine when and how it entered your life. Which means you can also evict it. After all, it’s your life. Only you have the power to build your confidence and get rid of this unwanted guest!
Sometimes self-doubt comes from setbacks. Keep in mind that setbacks are temporary. They are simply a part of life but they were never designed to stay. They are also learning experiences and our goal should always be to utilize the lessons we learn, and allow them to serve as direction for future decisions. When doubt tries to creep back in (and it will), tell yourself, “Stop! Halt! Hold up! I’m not doing this again. This is a dead end road!”
Another way to fight self-doubt is to identify the people who support, reassure and celebrate you. Those whom will reach down and give you their hand when you fall. Those are the relationships you should nurture. These are the people you draw strength and confidence from. They are your self-doubt erasers.
Additionally, we must learn how to celebrate the small wins. They build momentum by reminding us that every step we take forward is a positive one. Who cares if it’s a baby step?
Challenge the inner negative dialogue that is going on in your head. Change your self-talk and consider the following examples:
“It may be hard, but it’s necessary.”
“I know what I want and I’m going after it.”
“No one can stop me but me.”
“I can and I will.”
Use the words that work for you and every time you start doubting yourself, start affirming yourself. As you consistently confront this emotion, it rises closer and closer to surface, which means you are ready to confront and ultimately … conquer.
I can’t tell you that you will never stop doubting yourself. What I will tell you is if you pay attention to your emotions and fight through the negative ones, … you WIN.
Your Life Renovator,
